…sure has been a while y’all

UPDATE, can’t believe how long it’s been!

I was chatting with a friend over messenger and we were talking blogs, she asked for the link to mine and that’s when I realised that oh my gosh, I have not written a post since last year!!

Lurve (aka loss thereof) update:

So definitely time to update y’all on what I’ve been up to and how life is chugging along. Firstly, that relationship? Yeah, nah. It’s gone. This time I ended it and maybe sometime I will tell you why. Suffice to say it was the best decision for me and I am in a really good place emotionally now that it is done and dusted!

in a good place

love coffee, love where I am right now 🙂

Dating – online and offline

I have ventured into the world of online dating. It’s been an interesting journey so far. There was the teacher who criticised my clothing, my face (I know right? he said I look vague – pfft), he ridiculed my job (well the one I used to have)… so that was a definite “no!” He then messaged to ask me why not and for me to list out exactly where he went wrong. Nope, that’s not my job Mister, if you have no insight into yourself and how you relate to people, I’m not about to start teaching you. Then there was the guy who looked quite nice judging by his photo and he seemed pleasant in written correspondence. When I turned up for coffee, I walked right by this very old fellow, I glanced his way and thought ‘no that is not date-guy’ then I sat down. The guy then came over, asked my name and then asked why I had walked on by. I said “because I did not recognise you”. I swear his photo was at least 15 years out of date.

Then the man who lied about his age. He dropped 5 years off and then “confessed” when we met. He said if he’d put his true age I would likely have not responded (true that) and he is interested in younger women as women his age are “boring” and yeah, that was a nope too. Now I know women can also be deceitful on these sites, my stories are my experiences as that’s all I’ve got to go by.

Health and fitness – my favourite topic 🙂 Running, Swimming and Dancing

Healthwise all is good. I am still running and have joined a #ParkRun group, we go out for a 5km run every Saturday morning and I am loving it! I usually run alone, so having a group of people to run with is a lovely change. There is often cake at the finish line (not sure that is a good idea!) and usually a few of us go for coffee/brekkie after the run.

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just closing in on the finish line 🙂

And I am swimming a couple of times per week at the local pool – 30 laps of the 50 mtr. I’m not super fast, but I persist! I find it relaxing and meditative and a good all over body workout without any stress on the joints. Makes a nice counterpoint to the running.

I am also taking dance classes twice per week. Pub jive – I still astound myself that I am not too bad at dancing. Jive is new to me so I’m starting from the beginning, I’m heading into week 4 of a 6 week course. I’ve got all the basics and now the teacher is adding in new steps to form a routine. I also found out my teacher’s birthday is on the same day as mine which made me smile. Oh and in my first class he hauled me into the centre, asked my name and announced it to the group and I was first up as an example, luckily I managed to recall the steps and not stomp on him!

Writing

The other thing I have started is a creative writing course. I enjoy writing, I have spare time on my hands (ya know, that whole unemployed thing) and I like to have some structure around what I am writing. I am working towards a Capstone unit whereby I will write a short story and I would eventually like to write a novel. I have a story idea and I have thoughts around character development. Feedback I am getting so far is really positive – so I will tell you more in my next update, which will not be as far down the track as this one is from the last.

Take care y’all – until next time xo

 

 

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Fun Run

still running, not stopping

Running

…and lots of it lately. Some excellent events and some awesome training runs and some that were kinda meh! First up was the Bridges Fun Run 10k way back in April (ok, yeah I know that’s only 2 months back, however I have been a teensy bit tardy in my blog updates lately!) 

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Running the Bridges with Nick!

Then there was the Mother’s Day Classic 8k on, you guessed it, Mother’s Day 🙂 That one is a fundraiser for breast cancer research and one of my always events. It’s such an awesome atmosphere, both joyous and sad at the same time, many runners run in memoriam of lost and fighting family members. This one I am always head to toe in pink, it’s the race theme color and I aim to comply right from my pink hairspray, pink tutu and pink socks!! Here’s a pic of me with my new running BFF Carolena… 

My last run was last weekend – the HBF Run for a Reason. Again another one of my always events. It was awesome, over 35,000 people ran!! It was an icy start to the morning, but a beautiful crisp, sunny day and you surely do warm up once you start hoofing it along the course 🙂

And… Nick ran the bridges and the HBF with me. We ran different distances in the Bridges as he joined a couple days out and I still had my head around running the 10… but the HBF we both ran the 4 – together – the whole way and we ran across the finish line together and it was awesome!!

Motivation

To be honest, I am not that big on motivation. I don’t think it’s what keeps us committed to health and fitness, but it is a good starting point for your fitness journey. So what motivates you? Do you exercise to reach a goal? To lose weight or to get healthier or to keep up with your kids or your partner or to enter that fun run or to take up dancing or to improve your mental health… 

Motivation – gets you going, but it doesn’t keep you going. It is really just the first step in your whole health journey. That’s why people get so baffled when they can’t stay motivated to exercise and eat healthily I often hear “I just can’t get motivated”. There’s this assumption that motivation is an ever renewing inner resource, but it just is not. It is the beginning, but not the journey nor the destination.

Persistence (or tenacity or sheer bloody-mindedness) – that’s what keeps you going. That is what gets you out of bed on cold winter mornings to go for a run, swim or to the gym or even just a brisk walk. 

Lifestyle – is the end point. That is what you are aiming for, a healthier and more active lifestyle that then becomes your life. The goals are the milestones along the way. Persistence is what keeps you going in spite of yourself. And lifestyle is what you become. 

Quick Fix – sorry, there isn’t one. It sucks right? I know.  That diet that you read about online that some vacuous celebrity endorsed won’t work and is likely unsustainable.  All those books and magazine articles of “how to lose weight in [insert unrealistic timeframe here]” will not work, not in the long term. Any diet that restricts your calorie intake will result in weight loss, but can you keep it up and should you? Is it healthy or just restricting your food intake until you can’t handle it anymore. 

What can you do? – Exercise every day in one way or another and make sure that some of it is hectic enough to leave you a bit breathless – that’s your heart and lungs working and they will be happy! Eat fresh if at all possible – most of the time – if fresh food is not readily available or too expensive, try frozen veggies, they actually are fairly nutritious. 

Keep up the good work, keep moving, keep eating well, nurture yourself, be the best you that you can be. You are awesome; you are wonderful; there is only one of you – remember that and believe in yourself – I do! 

be yourself

 

 

health, emotional well-being and love (of course!)

First up – health

Physical health and emotional health are intertwined. As humans how we eat, how we exercise and how we feel are all connected. Most people know that having a sugar binge will lead to a sugar “high” and then you crash back down shortly afterwards.

cat and sugar crash

pretty much me in a long arvo at work!!

For sustained energy you’re better off having a handful of nuts or a banana (yes there is sugar in fruit, however there’s lots of other nutrients and fiber too!!). 

Food can affect our emotions and our emotional well-being too. How many times have you overindulged on the weekend, either a junk food binge or too many wines out with the girls? (mmhmm hand up guilty on this one…) Then come Monday morning you drag yourself awake feeling terrible and promising to eat healthy, drink more water and haul your ass out the door for a walk/run/swim/hit the gym?

But what can I do?

Good question. What can you do? Everyone talks about “everything in moderation” and for sure that cliche has some merit. However, what does moderation actually mean? And how do you ensure you are being “moderate” in what you choose to consume? Here’s one simple tip:

Keep a food diary – it really does help keep track of everything you eat and drink on a daily basis (including that one, sorry two or was that three glasses of wine each night?) try it for a couple of weeks and you’ll surprise yourself for sure!!

image of a food diary/journal

food diary

Then you can use your food diary outcomes to change up what you eat and how you eat and you can easily spot things that you can swap out or cut down. For example, if you find you have a choc bar every arvo, swap it out a couple times/week for a small handful of nuts or piece of fresh fruit. If every morning you have a super large full-cream vanilla coffee latte – swap it out for low-fat coffee a couple of times/week. Glass or 3 of wine each night? Aim to have a couple of wine-free nights, swap it out for mineral water with a squeeze of lemon or lime juice. Making small changes makes you feel less deprived and more likely to stick with them and maybe even increase the changes over time! And remember:

create the change you want to be!

Love and Emotional Health (for me)

ok, this one is surprisingly tricky. It’s all very well for me to say that you need love in your life to improve your emotional well-being. It’s a loaded concept and far too easy to criticise. Many of us have been or are alone without a significant other in our lives – so it’s always painful to hear that love is important and necessary to stay emotionally healthy, but it kinda is…

But you know and I know that love is not just from the husband/wife/partner in our life. It’s also our family, friends, child(ren), pets  whether that’s a dog, cat, goldfish, goanna (an Aussie lizard, go google it, I’ll wait…).

Animals and small children give us unconditional love and that’s the kind that makes us feel wonderful and that all is right with the world even when it really is not. My daughter is just as loving and adorable at 26 as she was as a tiny child, I look at her and am amazed at how awesome she is and how lucky I am. So, go hug your child/children or your fur-baby, whichever, whatever – it’s all good.

I also have my therapy dog George and I share his love with the students and staff at work, with dementia patients and with random strangers I meet out walking him (love and exercise – mmhmm, I’m in heaven!!) Here’s a pic of George for y’all to make you smile.

Get on over to his fb page Georgie-boy on fb for more joy and happy, then come back here for my final comments on love.

Therapy Dog

George the Therapy Dog and my best friend 🙂

 

Love – that is all

child with balloon

don’t let go!!

So, now for my final comments on this blog post. Y’all know I’ve been in a relationship that has had some serious stops and starts and it’s caused me a fair amount of anguish and my living it all out in social media means everyone pretty much knows my business, so I have no secrets – not sure if that’s a good thing, but that is how it is for me.

Yes, we are back together. Yes, I know some of my friends worry about this. Yes, I know what I am doing. Yes, I know how the story may end (hey I’ve been living it for the last year!) and No, you don’t have the right to tell me how I should live my life. I love my friends, but you cannot make my decisions for me. You can choose to question my decisions, but I’d truly appreciate you keeping that to yourself and having respect for my choice, even if you think it is not the right one. 

And me? I always choose love and you know what? That is my happy. He asked me if I had put this photo on fb and I’m like nah, but it’s killing me and he laughed coz he knows I put it all out there – so here, this is us…

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Running, PokemonGo, more running…and just a touch of dating!!

Favorite people and Pokemon!

I just read a blog post by one of my favorite bloggers, Jenny Lawson, aka The Bloggess and found she is playing PokemonGo and so am I (along with a gazillion other people around the world!!)… here’s a link to Jenny’s blog just in case you’d like to read more… and she is absolutely correct – this game does help with anxiety 🙂

 

…and I totally get her comment on the rats… why on earth are there so many Rattatas wandering about? Here’s one sneaking up on George my therapy dog

image of George the Therapy dog with a PokemonGo Rattata

…wha? is there something behind me?

…on being sick 😦

Now, back to staying fit and healthy… well that’s a bit easier now. It’s winter over here in Australia and of course I’ve had all my work colleagues sneezing, snuffling and coughing up a lung all around me. And one by one, we have all succumbed to the dreaded bug/virus/plague from hell!!

I’ve managed to catch it twice in a month, both times I had to take time off work because I was so sick. Seriously, wtf is it with colds these days? I’m sure back in the day you had a runny nose, sore throat, bit of a cough and then you’d be right as rain within 7 days. Now it seems the cold has mutated into an evil demon that causes all of the above, plus fevers, crashing headaches, doing weird things to your voice – well, more like losing your voice and squeaking like a demented mouse!! and keeping you out of action for weeks.

Running, because, running…

Anyway, I’m all better now, thank you for asking 🙂 and back to running. I ran in the Swan River Run on Sunday and managed a really good time. I’m so glad I’m back to being fighting fit… more pics on the run soon… for now, here’s a pic of one of my morning running routes – it’s so pretty!!

Canning River

The beautiful Canning River in Perth Western Australia

Love and romance

…and on a final note – I haven’t updated y’all on my relationship lately, suffice to say it’s had a few ups and downs, which is normal (although it never feels that way when you are going through it, does it?)… this morning Nick sent through a text of a saying he’d found: “we come by love, not by finding the perfect person, but learning to love the imperfect perfectly” …and you know what? I think that is just perfect!! 🙂

cute couple holding hands

 

 

 

 

…pet therapy

I read a while back that owning a dog encourages people to exercise more… which somehow does not surprise me – especially when my dog George gives me those sad puppy eyes and is all like “so, hey human – walk me?!?” or when I get home from a rough day at work and he’s bouncing all over the place in total joy that I’m home…

cat tree

who said dogs can’t climb!!

He’s actually a certified therapy dog and we volunteer at a dementia residence on weekends and he’s also an ”approved wellness activity” at the university where I work. The students and staff love him*

He’s a fixture during exam time and he helps students de-stress before they go into their exams. He has his own facebook page and he gets messages from students and staff to come visit and hang out with them for a while. I even put up a fb status recently saying my dog had the exact same number of friends as me and right up two of my friends went and friend requested him to make sure he was in the lead!! 

…and more George at his Facebook page 🙂

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* side note: George is a spoodle (or cockerpoo in the US!) a spaniel/poodle cross and low allergy because he doesn’t shed hair and as his handler I’m careful when I notice people who are uncomfortable around dogs.

staying healthy and looking after yourself after a relationship bust up…

If you read my first post you will have seen that a while back I lost a guy I was dating because I went for a run on New Year’s Eve… now to be honest, I don’t seem to be real good at holding onto relationships – but then again I am very good (nowadays) at letting go of toxic relationships, which is a very good thing!

My most recent ex (the one who dumped me via a text message) and really it was barely 5 months, so does that actually qualify as an ex? or just dating? Really, just dating if you ask me! He was very full on and the whole thing got really intense really fast. He was asking to move in with me within a few weeks and I’m all like – wait, what? move in? umm no! seriously, just no!!

I also want to be with someone who is committed to their own well-being. I think it is very hard for someone to truly love and care for you if they treat themselves like a garbage dump both physically and emotionally!

Anyway, once it was done and dusted I found myself in the very fortunate position of heading off to a health and wellness retreat. I had originally booked it for both of us as he had (early on in the dating time) said that he wanted to improve his health and ease up on the drinking – mind you when I first mentioned the retreat he was all like – hell no, hope you don’t think I’m doing that… Actually, no.

So I took myself off for a bit of pampering, healthy fresh food (no-one has fed me 3 meals/day since I was a kid, it was lovely, but a bit odd and took some getting used to); bush/country hikes (lots of hills) and massages and a natural pond to swim in and like-minded people who are passionate about health and well-being. My hosts were Jenny and Neil at Nature’s Paradise in Mundaring, Western Australia Nature’s Paradise – just so, so beautiful and tranquil…

…some pics of where I was staying:

…and yes I am very fortunate to be able to take myself away for a few days and totally rejuvenate spiritually, emotionally and physically. What I would like to say to you all is that whenever you find yourself in an emotionally distressed state, please try to nurture yourself however you can – if you can go away for a few days do so. If not, do things that make you feel good, eat well (don’t be tempted to eat badly because you feel sad or hurt or angry or damaged), try to get some exercise, spend time outdoors if you can and nurture yourself. You will find it easier to heal your heart if you look after the rest of you 🙂

That’s not to say that a girl’s night out (or in) and a wine or two and some trash talking is not also part of the healing process too – because it is! 😛

…and now the final pic for you – a mommy kangaroo and her joey that hang around the retreat – just seeing them made me feel way better!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Kangaroo and Joey