Running + Dating = Running/date is a thing y’all :D

Time for a run/date – how cool is that?

My ideal first date, go for a run and impress him with my sweaty awesomeness! And I got that opportunity on the weekend. I’d been messaging with a fellow I found on my dating site. A lot of his photos were of him at ParkRuns around the world and y’all know I love ParkRuns and travelling, so how could I not be impressed? Plus he’s good looking, came across as smart and genuine and obvs fit – can’t be doing all that running and be unfit, right?!

So, he kinda invited me on his local ParkRun on Sat morning and to go for a coffee after. Best first date offer ever!! Except I had to get him to come to my ParkRun as it was a special one for me, I was about to run my last timed run in my age category of 55-59 – I turned 60 on the 10 Sept! (more on that below). My ParkRun buddies were insisting I do a new PB on the day and go out with a bang! And that’s a challenge I just had to accept. So I invited my date to my run and coffee/breakie after and he said yes and came to my run 🙂 🙂

One of my running buddies offered to pace me 🙂 We’ll start off at a slow and steady pace for the first km or so he said.. mmhmm, his idea of slow and steady was my idea of ‘holy hell this is fast!’ He kept me at a steady rhythm with target goals along the way and a mantra to play out in my head. I noticed my date overtake us at some point and I was thinking – awesome, he’s faster than me! I spotted him as he was heading back after the turn around point and he stopped to take an action shot of me (there’s also a really nice shot of my date guy and I after the run – but I won’t post that just yet – early days people 🙂 ) Oh and I got that PB by 10 seconds!

running at ParkRun
My final 55-59 timed run and I got that PB and was first in my age category – thanks to my pacing buddy and everyone at my ParkRun cheering me on!

Then date guy and I went for coffee and breakfast afterwards. Really good conversation and he is lovely. We talked for ages, but I had to cut it short as it was my birthday party day and I had to get organised. He messaged me later in the day with photos and a thank you and on the mad spur of the moment I invited him to swing by my birthday party that evening. He said he’d love to and he did! He was totally at ease with my family and friends and they all loved him. So, how’s that for a first date? Running in the morning, celebrating my birthday in the evening AND running the gauntlet of my family and friends! What a guy, he’s a keeper – am I right?

Musings on turning 60

Turning 60 is awesome, I love milestone birthdays, it’s always an excuse to celebrate, throw a party and have everyone pamper you – what’s not to love? What’s even better is that at my party some of my friends gave me cards to celebrate my 50th and one thought it was my 40th (bless!!). I guess all that exercise and healthy eating and keeping a positive mind-set (and for sure I know that is not always easy, I speak from personal experience) has stood me in good stead for where I am at right here and right now.

There were some beautiful and thoughtful gifts, my daughter bought me a Kobo (an eReader). I’d previously not been keen as I love ‘real’ books – however I have literally run out of bookshelves and the books piling up everywhere looks a bit like I should open a second hand bookstore before I (and the mutts) disappear under the pile 😛

So here are a couple of party pics for y’all – take care, look after each other and if you’re approaching a milestone birthday – enjoy and eat that cake!! xoxo

 

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Running… what else?

I found a new thing (well new to me) ParkRun…

I’ve joined the #ParkRun phenomenon. I love running on my own, but it’s pretty nice to run with a group. Have y’all heard of ParkRun? I’ll add a link below for you to check it out. It’s a community/neighborhood organised group and anyone can join in, it doesn’t matter what your pace is, you can run, walk, take your kids, dog, partner, best friend. Or like me, go by yourself and find friends and make new friends and meet more of your neighbors. The best thing is that once you join ParkRun you can run with any group around the world – great way to stay fit and healthy and meet new people wherever you might find yourself 🙂

Here’s the link –  ParkRun

Lurve and that online dating thing and oh my gosh, ghosting really is a thing!

Well, I persist! Met a cute guy online – 53 year old lawyer. Went on a couple of dates. First date he took me out for dinner, lovely spirited conversation about everything – politics, travel, history, music, movies. He walked me to my car told me I was gorgeous (naaw, bless!) and kissed me – I usually don’t allow guys to kiss me on a first date, too intimate too soon – but this one seemed different and I felt a connection.

Second date he invited me to the cinema, he chose On Chesil Beach, a slow moving British period drama. Lots of beautiful long camera shots of a pebbly British beach and awkward sex scenes with the protagonists and a tragic and trite ending. He held my hand throughout and stroked my hand and fingers.

After the movie he wanted to go to San Churros (if you don’t have this franchise in your city, go google it) and suddenly I felt like an awkward 15 year old. He wanted hot chocolate and a plate of churros (Spanish donuts with a sugary dipping sauce).  The conversation was flat, mostly because we were surrounded by noisy teenagers and that does not make for conducive small talk!

He walked me to my car, quick kiss and a “see you later” from him as he dashed to his car. I was left standing with a bemused expression on my face and thinking hmmmm. Then he “ghosted” me! Literally ghosted me. Did not call or message, nothing, nada. Just disappeared. I was messaging my mate Ali and her response? He forgot to use his big boy words! Classic! Seriously, all that is required is a polite text/message saying, thank you, but I don’t think this will work. No harm, no foul and we all go on our separate journeys knowing that good manners prevail and all will be right with the world.

on Chesil Beach photo
I’m kinda thinking this still from the movie might be a slight indication of the soon to be fate of my date! 😛

Take care y’all and treat each other with respect and kindness xo

 

…sure has been a while y’all

UPDATE, can’t believe how long it’s been!

I was chatting with a friend over messenger and we were talking blogs, she asked for the link to mine and that’s when I realised that oh my gosh, I have not written a post since last year!!

Lurve (aka loss thereof) update:

So definitely time to update y’all on what I’ve been up to and how life is chugging along. Firstly, that relationship? Yeah, nah. It’s gone. This time I ended it and maybe sometime I will tell you why. Suffice to say it was the best decision for me and I am in a really good place emotionally now that it is done and dusted!

in a good place
love coffee, love where I am right now 🙂

Dating – online and offline

I have ventured into the world of online dating. It’s been an interesting journey so far. There was the teacher who criticised my clothing, my face (I know right? he said I look vague – pfft), he ridiculed my job (well the one I used to have)… so that was a definite “no!” He then messaged to ask me why not and for me to list out exactly where he went wrong. Nope, that’s not my job Mister, if you have no insight into yourself and how you relate to people, I’m not about to start teaching you. Then there was the guy who looked quite nice judging by his photo and he seemed pleasant in written correspondence. When I turned up for coffee, I walked right by this very old fellow, I glanced his way and thought ‘no that is not date-guy’ then I sat down. The guy then came over, asked my name and then asked why I had walked on by. I said “because I did not recognise you”. I swear his photo was at least 15 years out of date.

Then the man who lied about his age. He dropped 5 years off and then “confessed” when we met. He said if he’d put his true age I would likely have not responded (true that) and he is interested in younger women as women his age are “boring” and yeah, that was a nope too. Now I know women can also be deceitful on these sites, my stories are my experiences as that’s all I’ve got to go by.

Health and fitness – my favourite topic 🙂 Running, Swimming and Dancing

Healthwise all is good. I am still running and have joined a #ParkRun group, we go out for a 5km run every Saturday morning and I am loving it! I usually run alone, so having a group of people to run with is a lovely change. There is often cake at the finish line (not sure that is a good idea!) and usually a few of us go for coffee/brekkie after the run.

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just closing in on the finish line 🙂

And I am swimming a couple of times per week at the local pool – 30 laps of the 50 mtr. I’m not super fast, but I persist! I find it relaxing and meditative and a good all over body workout without any stress on the joints. Makes a nice counterpoint to the running.

I am also taking dance classes twice per week. Pub jive – I still astound myself that I am not too bad at dancing. Jive is new to me so I’m starting from the beginning, I’m heading into week 4 of a 6 week course. I’ve got all the basics and now the teacher is adding in new steps to form a routine. I also found out my teacher’s birthday is on the same day as mine which made me smile. Oh and in my first class he hauled me into the centre, asked my name and announced it to the group and I was first up as an example, luckily I managed to recall the steps and not stomp on him!

Writing

The other thing I have started is a creative writing course. I enjoy writing, I have spare time on my hands (ya know, that whole unemployed thing) and I like to have some structure around what I am writing. I am working towards a Capstone unit whereby I will write a short story and I would eventually like to write a novel. I have a story idea and I have thoughts around character development. Feedback I am getting so far is really positive – so I will tell you more in my next update, which will not be as far down the track as this one is from the last.

Take care y’all – until next time xo

 

 

It’s the New Year! Time to get healthy y’all

Health and Illness

It’s been a while since my last post and here we are one week into 2017!! How is that even possible? It’s been a roller coaster ride in life for me since I last talked with y’all. Being all super healthy and fit I found it really challenging coz I kept getting sick last winter (June/July/Aug over here in Oz).

I hardly ever get sick and I am nowhere near stoic or able to deal… I am more the whiny, miserable sort. Which was pretty pointless as there’s only really George to listen to me moan and complain – mind you, he is a pretty awesome listener and he’d just snuggle up with me when I couldn’t even get my head off the pillow.

George the Therapy Dog
George and Me – click here to follow George  You can follow George on his Facebook page

Lurve Update y’all…

Sad to say my relationship went belly up last year too and not just once – it turned into that horrible relationship game that some folk play – pull me/push me! He’d get real close and I’d be all like “naaaw… this is so lovely – he loooves me!!” then Bam! He’d end it without warning and I was left reeling. And like I just said, not just the once!

D’oh, you’d think I’d learn the first time – you know the saying “once bitten – run the hell away and don’t look back” well that’s not exactly the right saying, but it sure as hell should be!! 

broken heart
ouch – so much ouch!!

So what’s next?

But hey!! I gotta keep moving, running, hiking, swimming, working (gotta earn George’s dog bix), loving – yeah that too, I am truly the eternal optimist! I’m back to dating, no-one special yet, but I’ll keep y’all posted on that later on (going on a date this afternoon – so hey, maybe, possibly and if nothing else a coffee and conversation with a nice guy).. umm back from that one and uhh, hmmm – nope!

Running, just keep running

Still running and loving it and my running buddy Kerry and I did our first stint as Event Traffic Controllers this summer for our running club and had fun keeping the runners from getting squished by impatient, jerky drivers who just have to drive right through a running event – ha!! Not on our watch buddy!

 

 

 

…dating fun & mishaps!!

If you’ve read my earlier posts y’all would know that I’ve been single for a while – but I’m happy to let you know that I’ve met someone!! Yay!!

Yep, that’s right, there’s a new man in my life and we shall call him Nick (mostly because that is his actual name 😛 ). He’s gorgeous, smart, funny and genuinely nice (and I mean nice in the best sense of the word). All of which I equally really like about him … Right, so where was I? Yep, new guy, dating, all good. Oh and I’m pretty sure he likes me too, that’s important in this whole dating thing. cute couple holding hands Much kissing, holding hands, going out and doing stuff like tea drinking, food eating, dancing (not my strong suit at all!) and 10 pin bowling!!! (I equally suck at bowling – more on that in another post)… Nick loves dancing – me not so much. Except, you know, champagne – loud music then dancing stuff happens!!

We’ve been out dancing twice so far, but not the serious proper stuff (which is something Nick is also actually good at, whereas I am more your uncoordinated, fall over your own feet type of dancer). And as y’all know, I’m a runner not a dancer. I may be graceful* on the running track, but not so much on the dance floor…

running; racing
…at my sweaty best!!

(*if by graceful, you mean sweaty, red in the face and panting – then I’ve got that nailed!!)

…but s’ok, I managed to channel my inner Elaine from Seinfeld, so i pretty much smashed it – I am aiming to impress! 😛

Elaine
mmhmm… click here to see the real deal!!

 

staying healthy and looking after yourself after a relationship bust up…

If you read my first post you will have seen that a while back I lost a guy I was dating because I went for a run on New Year’s Eve… now to be honest, I don’t seem to be real good at holding onto relationships – but then again I am very good (nowadays) at letting go of toxic relationships, which is a very good thing!

My most recent ex (the one who dumped me via a text message) and really it was barely 5 months, so does that actually qualify as an ex? or just dating? Really, just dating if you ask me! He was very full on and the whole thing got really intense really fast. He was asking to move in with me within a few weeks and I’m all like – wait, what? move in? umm no! seriously, just no!!

I also want to be with someone who is committed to their own well-being. I think it is very hard for someone to truly love and care for you if they treat themselves like a garbage dump both physically and emotionally!

Anyway, once it was done and dusted I found myself in the very fortunate position of heading off to a health and wellness retreat. I had originally booked it for both of us as he had (early on in the dating time) said that he wanted to improve his health and ease up on the drinking – mind you when I first mentioned the retreat he was all like – hell no, hope you don’t think I’m doing that… Actually, no.

So I took myself off for a bit of pampering, healthy fresh food (no-one has fed me 3 meals/day since I was a kid, it was lovely, but a bit odd and took some getting used to); bush/country hikes (lots of hills) and massages and a natural pond to swim in and like-minded people who are passionate about health and well-being. My hosts were Jenny and Neil at Nature’s Paradise in Mundaring, Western Australia Nature’s Paradise – just so, so beautiful and tranquil…

…some pics of where I was staying:

…and yes I am very fortunate to be able to take myself away for a few days and totally rejuvenate spiritually, emotionally and physically. What I would like to say to you all is that whenever you find yourself in an emotionally distressed state, please try to nurture yourself however you can – if you can go away for a few days do so. If not, do things that make you feel good, eat well (don’t be tempted to eat badly because you feel sad or hurt or angry or damaged), try to get some exercise, spend time outdoors if you can and nurture yourself. You will find it easier to heal your heart if you look after the rest of you 🙂

That’s not to say that a girl’s night out (or in) and a wine or two and some trash talking is not also part of the healing process too – because it is! 😛

…and now the final pic for you – a mommy kangaroo and her joey that hang around the retreat – just seeing them made me feel way better!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Kangaroo and Joey

still healthy, still single (again!)

I run for fun (yeah, I know – run and fun = mutually exclusive)… one of my recent runs was really important to me because I lost my last relationship over it (I use the term relationship very loosely here – it was a thing, a 5 month thing). It was right before New Year’s and I’d signed up for a 4k fun run. The guy I was seeing/dating at the time was not (and never will be!) a runner, but he said he’d join me for this one. Awesome!

Except, the evening before, he bailed on the run… and not just bailed, but stormed out the door in a temper tantrum over it… which is never a good look! (seriously grown men throwing tantrums is purely ridiculous, all puce of face and bulging of veins). I watched him storm out, my heart sinking and when he slammed the door and gunned his SUV down the driveway, all I could think was… well, hell – there’s a pattern of behaviour that won’t change in a hurry!!

The run was the next evening and it was 31 degrees (celcius not farenheit – umm google tells me 31 celcius is 87.8 farenheit, so pretty darn hot!! 😛 ). I’m usually a morning runner and not real good running in hot weather, so this one was tough for me, even though the distance wasn’t that long. There are a lot of other runners out there (like my running buddies Kerry, Teri and Liz) who run longer distances in more challenging environments and they are tough folk and a bit more resilient than I. But for me a hot run over any distance sucks – but I was totally determined to finish this one!

Here I am during the race and I’m defs looking hot, melty and grittily determined – and I’m pretty sure this was fairly early in the race – but there was no way I was going to stop!

Here I am sweating my way through the run…

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I’m the one in red with the pink hat 🙂

When I got home from the run I found a text from dating guy saying “I hope the run was so important to you that it signifies ending a relationship… I hope you find what you are running from…” pffft!!! How Gen Y, I got ditched in a text message!!! 😛

I am NEVER running from – I am ALWAYS running towards….

…unless it’s the zombies, then defs I am running from!!!

running zombies